Thank you for this detailed response JulianGiulio! I understand your point and I agree with it as well.

There’s a difference between being honest and being open. It’s not necessary to share your opinions or feelings in every situation, yet, at the times you do, THAT part has to be honest. I do think that silence or ‘not giving a damn’ about everything makes life easier as well.

I used to be too friendly as well — I guess that was also my honesty. I can agree with the woman at the bar that a guy who is too friendly isn’t all that attractive. There is no challenge and mystery to him. It’s important to tease and play around a bit so she doesn’t feel like she’s got him figured out in 30min.

However, when you want to give her a compliment, or talk about an intimate topic, be sincere about it. Now, she knows the guy can be aloof and playful, but also has an honest quality to him when it matters. This quality is essential for building trust, but also for setting proper boundaries.

I can’t say I care much about politicians or politics in general. I’ll let other people spend their time on that. It has never improved my life.

You are spot on about self-honesty. We all have our individual rationalizations (aka bulls****s) that keep us fearful, lazy and envious. We have to break through those barriers in order to grow. By doing this, you will start to see similar patterns and symptoms in other people’s behaviour.

It’s not easy, but it’s worth it. At least, that’s what I’m figuring out in my life.

Thank you again for reading and commenting!