Hi there, Pavan

I want to apologize for the late response. This last week was all about preparing for my move to another country.

Thank you for that question. I’m going to take my time to answer it as best as I can at this moment. So I’ll be dissecting this step by step.

You have to know, my friend, that I don’t have it all figured out! I wrote this article because I believed it could really help people, but I also wrote it for myself. It’s completely normal to feel lost from time to time, and I need to remind myself frequently about what is truly important and what isn’t.

If you are looking for great answers, ask great questions. Ask the right people for advice, but also ask yourself questions.

Which 3–5 things am I good at that might be a big struggle for others?
What do other people tell me that I’m good at?
If I have free time on a Saturday, how would I choose to spend it?
Which activity can get me excited to wake up in the morning before everyone else does?
If I could really start growing in the next 3 months focusing on 1–3 things, which things would I choose?
Who is doing exactly what I would like to do? How did they do it? What advice are they giving? Which habits added to their growth?

The list goes on. It can be very interesting to really get to know yourself. After all, you are your own best friend.

When you do too many things at the same time for too long, it can get hard to become excellent at those things. I’ve been through this as well. After a while, I realized that I wasn’t really becoming great in a few things, rather average in many.

Like Marcus Aurelius says, “Do less, better”.

Imagine what could happen if you focused on only a few things in the next months. How good can you become? You can always expand after those months. Life isn’t a race. A smart, steady marathon will get you there too.

Don’t feel bad about your 9–5 job right now. Use your job (financially) to get closer to what you ultimately want to do. Later, if your “side-project” is really going somewhere, you can always make the choice to transition to that full time. It doesn’t have to go fast. You can take your time in a smart way. Wake up 1 hour earlier, and stop working 1 hour later. You just created 10–14 extra hours to focus on what you love (remember to get your 7.5–8 hours of sleep though).

Study → Create. Study → Create. Experiment → Fail → Reinvent → Grow
Keep repeating that process.

Don’t compare yourself to other people. Everyone is different. Also, don’t compete with other people. Use their drive and success as inspiration. If you want to become a master, be comfortable with being a “fool” first. Becoming really good takes time. It’s a process you can enjoy if you choose to.

I’m in the same process as you are. We are all looking for our personal legend. You can do it. Don’t allow anyone — and I repeat — ANYONE to tell you that you can’t.

I wish you all the best. If you have any more questions, feel free to ask them.
Take care!